Diagnosed NPD Father of Eight-Year-Old Twins

by Anonymous

(Visitor's experience):

My future ex-husband was diagnosed with Aspergers and Narcissistic Personality Disorder.

He never spent any time with his children while we lived together for their first eight years. If I left the house, my mother, sitter or best friend was at the house. He stayed in his room and had nothing to do with us.

Now he has them on his own sometimes because we are separated. He is not feeding them enough and I am afraid it is connected to the narcissism. I do not know what to do. The courts do not know how to handle people like him. It is awful.

Comments by Positive Parenting Ally

Dear you,

I sounds like you are having a hard time filled with worry and feelings of helplessness. I'm afraid I can't advise you in terms of the law (I simply don't have any knowledge in that area) and which options you may have there but I would suggest that you find someone to talk to, someone who can support you in this.

All depending on your needs of support, it could be e.g. a therapist who can help you emotionally or a social worker of some sort who can help you in terms of finding out what your options are - or a combination of both.

Reach out, just like you're doing now, and continue doing so until you find something/someone that can help you - that is my best advice.

I wish you and your family all the best,
Birgitte, Positive Parenting Ally